For many women, shopping for a wedding dress will be a once-in-a-lifetime experience. An experience many women have dreamt of since their earliest childhood. The fantasy of picking out a dress may often involve a giggling gang of their closest female friends and family sipping champagne and oohing and aahing over each new selection. The reality, however, may fall far short of this happy fantasy. Here are 4 problems with taking a large group to shop for your wedding dress.
Unless you live in a tiny town in the middle of nowhere, people in urban areas tend to have crazy, chaotic, busy schedules. Just trying to arrange a time when all of your people can be in the same place at the same time can be a headache all on it’s own. Planning a wedding is stressful enough, don’t try to complicate things by trying to get too many of your friends and family together for too many pre-wedding events.
2. Negative opinions
While you may not be aware of it, chances are good you have at least one or more negative friends. While you may have bonded with one or more of your friends over a mutual dislike of something, this doesn’t make a good dynamic for supporting you in your search for a wedding dress. The reality is, your negative friends are the ones most likely to be negative about everything. When shopping for a wedding dress, you are probably going to have to try on several dresses that are massively unflattering until you find The One True Dress. You may not want to subject yourself to several hours of your negative friends nit-picking about what exactly each of the unflattering dresses makes you look like in your search for The One.
3. Conflicting opinions
While of course what you think should be the only thing that matters, the reality is, most of us have an opinion addiction. Which is probably why you invited your friends to go dress shopping with you in the first place. On the other hand, like the old saying goes: you can’t please everyone. While it would be great if all your friends knew you well enough to know exactly the right dress for you when they see it, the reality is, their opinions are probably going to be based more on what they like than what is right for you. The more people you involve in the process, the more conflicting opinions you are likely to get about which dress you should choose.
Just getting everyone’s schedules aligned to go shopping in the first place can be crazy, but once you get them all together it can still be chaos. Inevitably, someone is going to get hungry and want a snack, someone else is going to want to run across the street and get Starbucks, while someone else is going to need to use the bathroom and potentially ask two or more others to join them. The more people you invite, the more chaos you should be prepared for.